Wouldn’t it be amazing to attract just the right things into your life that will allow you to live your dreams? We all have dreams that we constantly think about – dreams so inspiring they keep us up at nights, and many of us have taken steps to help bring them to fruition such as setting SMART goals, crafting a plan to accomplish them, and consistently working towards them with discipline. But somehow it seems that regardless of how dedicated we are to realizing our dreams, we can never get close enough because there are things interfering with the equilibrium? There is a way! Something is missing from the equation, and it is observance of the Law of Attraction.
The best way to attract the right things in life, is to obey the Law of Attraction. Whether we believe in the Law of attraction or not, it is affecting our lives in one way or another – positively or negatively. Whether we are doing it knowingly or unknowingly, every second of our existence, we are acting as human magnets sending out our thoughts and emotions and attracting back more of what we have put out. But the good news is, we can command the Law of Attraction or the Universe to work in our favor by acknowledging: it, its power, its all-encompassing presence and doing everything in our power to lean in to the Law of Attraction and making it work for us. With that in mind, here are a few things you can do to ensure you attract what you want in your life.
Thoughts build momentum over time, so be very careful of the things you tell yourself and think about.
Direct Your Focus
The Law of Attraction states that whatever you focus on, will be manifested. Whatever you focus on will be what you spend your time on, and what you spend your time on, will inevitably come to fruition. If you focus on a particular outcome in your life, that’s what’s going to eventually materialize. If you focus on your goals – how good it will feel to be living your dreams, and you envision that deeply enough – eventually, it will be manifested.
If you want to attract the right things into your life, direct your focus. Learn what to focus your mind’s eye on. If you concentrate on negativity, you’ll beget more of it. If you live in a state of fear, worry, anxiety, and stress, you’ll simply manifest those things. The subconscious mind will steer you towards whatever it is that you focus on, and over time, the all-powerful id will help to manifest the abstract into reality. So be the director of your focus and channel it only on things that you want to see manifested in your life.
It’s difficult to attract the right things into your life when you’re consumed with negative energy. The vibrational frequency of your energy will pull the equivalent towards you. So if you’re constantly living in a state of negativity, you’ll end up attracting more of that into your life. It’s a delicate balance and it needs to be kept in check if you’re going to achieve your dreams.
Exercise Integrity
Regardless of whether someone is around or not, you continue to do what’s right. No-one may be present, but the Universe is, and it will reward you in due season – favorably or unfavorably – depending on your deeds. Some call it karma, but whatever you call it, just know that you too will reap whatsoever you sow. Don’t think for one minute that you can short-change people and cheat them and get away scotch free! It may take a minute to get back around to you, but we promise you it’s coming. If you take others for granted in any way, you will be taken advantage of too. Not necessarily by the person or persons you have wronged, but someone somewhere at some point – in our universal sphere of operation – will respond to you with the wrath you have bestowed on others. So, do exercise integrity.
Participate in the Universal Reciprocity Network
This is another important thing you must do to attract the right things in your life; you must participate in what we term here at My Blooming Biz International, the Universal Reciprocity Network. Simply put, the law governing the Universal Reciprocity Network – the Universal Law of Reciprocity states that whatever you sow that also shall you reap. So if you sow a coconut, you will reap a coconut or coconuts. And depending on the soil and how you tend that seed, that’s the quality of what the result will be. No good soil, no tending, nothing to reap. Good soil, good tending, great quality and abundance of whatever you sow. If you are not a part of the URN, you will remain in a SPINN cycle. If you contribute nothing to the Universal Reciprocity Network, you will gain nothing from it. So, don’t sit idly by, and don’t be afraid to sow. Participate, sow, water your seeds and be prepared to reap in abundance.
Be What You Want to Attract
And finally, be what you want to attract. Like attract like. If you want a fit hunky partner, you have to be fit and attractive too. You must do the inner as well as the outer work before venturing out with your green light on looking for the right partner to latch on. And when the ones you view as “your type” aren’t giving you the time of day, you secretly blame them and refuse to look at yourself. Think about it, if you are in excellent shape as far as the eyes can see, would you be attracted to someone who is not in shape at all? Most definitely not! Also, if you have no money would you want someone with no money? And if you have money would you want someone with money? Sure you would not, and yes, you sure would – respectively. The same for intangibles. If you are kind, loving, caring, thoughtful, considerate, empathetic, the universe will respond to you in like forms. If you are unkind, unloving, uncaring, thoughtless, inconsiderate, pathetic, the universe will also respond to you in like forms. For many of us, it’s very easy to see what’s not cool about others but very hard to see what’s not cool about ourselves. So be what you want to attract – both tangibly and intangibly – outwardly and inwardly – and expect the universe to respond to you in like manner.
MBB hosted our 5th biannual Design Your Dream Lifestyle event on Saturday in the beautiful, historically rich Washington DC. Over 60 women attended of whom 32 are active participants in our Dream Lifestyle Designing Workshop, and 18 women signed up to start our Dream Lifestyle Designing program.
We are happy to say that MBB DYDL participants are delighted with our program as they are seeing results and "feeling invigorated and optimistic" "very hopeful about my future for the first time" in the words of Rachel Claire and Jasmine Taylor, about their new lifestyle and where they are headed - respectively. See more of what My Blooming Biz family are saying on our Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram pages, and don't forget to like, follow, and interact with us while you're there.
We handed out over 50 bags of goodies that include mbb gift cards, discounts to our WERK Your Money Making Genie Workshop and our UPPPP Your Genius system of programs, and copies of our popular signature book written by our CEO Eugénie Nugent titled - Unleash: Activate Your Power, Manifest Your Greatness & Become The Empowered Woman You Were Born to Be. Lots of goodies! But if you were not at our event, do not despair! Sign up to our newsletter and get notified of our next DYDL event coming this July 2019, and also of new launches and promotions.
In addition to being created because we understand the brilliance, beauty, and boldness of women and the role that being balanced and purpose-driven can play in improving women's lives, My Blooming Biz was created to help women harness their skills and talents and use them to propel a ton of money to flow in. In order to live life on our own terms we need money - and lots of it, and in recognition of that, our CEO and founder Eugénie Nugent - in collaboration with her team, have designed programs that are specific to building wealth and becoming financially independent.
As she often say and strongly believe, "Having our finances in order is the highest form of self-love, a love that cannot help but to command respect."
Money is a subject many people are still hesitant to speak freely about, but money expands who we are, and what we are able to access. And so, as we teach here at My Blooming Biz; being open about money - changing the way we view, treat, and interact with money will be the difference in whether we snatch, snatch and let go, or snatch and hold on to it, as she wrote in her book, The Elusive Money: How to Snatch & Hold On To It
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Bottom line: Money commands respect! And for those of us who were taught to hate money and negatively treat money, we need a new mindset in order to accept and act on this new reality.
Design Your Dream Lifestyle programs and events are designed to bring out the best in you and challenge you to empower yourself. In our CEO's own words, “We are here to pull things out of you that you didn’t know were there, and assist you in making them work for you, to the enhancement and betterment of your overall life.” She has selectively created five (5) programs to help women become empowered and she is relentless in making "the empowered woman lifestyle" a reality for thousands of women.
Download your FREE copy of our Dream Lifestyle Designing Workbook and complete the worksheets. It is packed with thought-provoking questions to get you thinking about your current life situation, where you would rather be, and how you can equip yourself (with our help) to get there.
Our next DYDL event will be in July 2019, so sign up to our newsletter to be informed when our venue is solidified.
They say young minds are more easily shaped, and we know there is some truth to this. (I forget things I learned in college, yet remember things I learned in Kindergarten 🙂 ) And thankfully, I was matched with an incredible, insightful mom who never wasted a moment to make it a teachable one. Yes, dads are special, but moms are super special. No kidding! My siblings and I have had so much fun and excursions with our dad, it’s amazing! However, when it comes to the learning curve and life lessons for me, mom takes the cake. Here are 10 things my mom taught me that have helped shape the woman I am today:
1. Words and Actions Have Consequences
Yes, there is freedom of speech in many places around the world, but there will always be consequences for what you say. Yep! That’s what my mom taught me, and this has helped me tremendously to think before I speak. As she would often say, “once the words leave your lips, you cannot take them back.” Likewise our actions, they can either result in good or result in bad. There is no better time to think about cause and effect than when we are about to speak or act. We must be willing to take responsibility for whatever our words or actions bring about.
2. There Aren’t Many Mind-Readers Out There So Ask for What You Want
This is something my mom would often say. It’s kinda like a mantra. In short, “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.” This has always stuck with me and taught me to be vocal about what I’m looking for — whether it’s something as simple as a lower price for an item or something bigger like asking my mate to love me the way I want to be loved (or else). Think about it, if we don’t ask, how will anyone know what we have need of? They won’t! And if you ask and the response isn’t favorable, then you have a choice to make a change. You can then move on in one direction or another as you have already made that request known. So don’t be afraid to ask – be it BIG or small. Just ask!
3. The Squeaky Wheel Gets the Grease
My mom is a pretty mouthy, outspoken woman, and she first taught me the saying, “The squeaky wheel gets the grease” at the age of 10 because unlike my siblings, I wasn’t loud enough in speaking up and my siblings always overshadowed me. As someone who’s a little more chill and subdued, I think about that often now whenever I hesitate to speak up, and you bet I immediately begin speaking up. And the rewards I’ve gotten are enormous and many of my accomplishments would not have been possible without these words of wisdom. I’m assertive and outspoken! Thanks for this mom!!!
4. Look the Part You Want, Not the Part You Have
When my mom first told me “look the part you want, not the part you have” I thought, what? But as I became older and new responsibilities began to present themselves, it became very clear what she was saying. Every time I was getting set for an interview or starting at a new company, that advice always came to mind. And now in my later business years I’m dressing for success everyday and not taking anything for granted. I’ve found that dressing nicer than expected can win you some major brownie points with employers and business prospects alike! And not only that, but it will definitely attract that caliber of people to you as well. So go ahead, dress for the part you want!
5. There’s a Difference Between Need and Want
My mom taught me the difference between a “need” and a “want,” which has made all the difference with how I now manage money — and all it took was a trip to get me a dress. I was a 10 year old who really wanted a cute bracelet set for my friends birthday party when she first gave me the “Is that a want or a need?” talk. We were on our way to get me a new dress because I really didn’t have anything nice and fitting for a party, but I saw that bracelet set and was immediately drawn to it. It was very beautiful, but it was expensive (I later realized). I was disappointed of course! As a little girl I didn’t understand anything about money or cost or needs and wants. The speech went over my head for the most part, but the conclusion of the message stuck: never ask to fill a want before a need is met. I learned that afternoon that a bracelet set qualifies as a want and a dress as a need.
The bracelet set lesson has become more valuable than ever upon entering the real world and moving to New York City in my early years, where I had to distinguish between needs and wants to stay afloat. It’s made me a more diligent and conscious spender, a habit that I believe takes time to form — a habit that a personal finance book or class can define but never truly teach. Thanks mom!
6. Hope for the Best, Prepare for the Worst
My mom’s constant words as we got older and started out making decisions in the real world were, “hope for the best, prepare for the worst.” It’s something I take to heart daily. Preparing for the worst-case scenario doesn’t necessarily mean you have a negative outlook, just that you want all your bases covered. It’s precautionary! It’s like storing food, water, and select medical supplies that can last 3 months, 6 months, 1 year in the event something happen and those things can’t get to you for a while. Highly unlikely, but very possible! Living this way has allowed nothing to take me off-guard.
7. Work Hard, Play Even Harder
The one thing that has really stuck with me is my mom’s ability to work hard, and play even harder. I’ve always admired her for being successful and respected in her industry, while remaining level-headed and moral above all. She always take time out for vacations, ensuring she spends time with her family, and never cease to live it up with her friends. She always remind us, “I work my a$$ off so I can enjoy whatever I want to enjoy – whenever!”. She celebrated her wins in style and was bold in letting everyone know where she has been, and the road she has traveled paved with obstacles, and how she maneuvered her way from where she was to where she wanted to be – living the life she desired and dreamed of. She prioritizes spending time with her family and was always ready for a good laugh. She balances her professional and personal lives nicely, and has always been a loyal, honest person in every facet of her life. Today, her example is helping me to live a more fulfilling life. I do work hard – smart but hard, and of course I continue to play even harder. Thanks mom!
8. It’s Not How Much You Earn, It’s How Much You Save that Matters! Start Saving Early!
When I got my first job in high school, my mom told me that for every $10 I made I should put $2.50 into a savings account. Knowing how stubborn I was, she wasn’t pushy about it at all and instead just kind of lightly suggested it. I thought it was a grand idea so I started doing it my junior year. At the end of my senior year can you guess how much I had in my savings account? Sixty Two Hundred and Seventy Dollars ($6,270). I was in shock and ecstatic at the same time. You see I wasn’t keeping track of the balance, I was just putting in money and after that BIG result, you bet I made that a habit! I have friends who constantly brag about how much they earn, but as to how much they save, they say is not relevant. I beg to differ! My mom was right again! I’ve been using systems that set a portion of my earnings aside each month, and at one point in my life, I was able to lean on that reserve. I owe you one mom 🙂
9. You Catch More Flies With Honey Than Vinegar
Growing up, my mom’s most repeated advice was, “you catch more flies with honey than vinegar” And it’s true. It’s not that hard to just be nice to people, to treat others well, and to make kindness your default — even when dealing with strangers. People will be more receptive to a kind, sincere tone, than one that is uncaring, nonchalant, and insincere. And for those people in authority who made it their duty to give you a hard time, remember to lean on this phrase to get through. Don’t argue with them! Don’t say mean things! Just use a soft answer to turn away wrath (you have no idea what caused) and you will be better positioned to walk away unscathed. It’s not always easy to be nice, but bearing my mom’s words in mind, has definitely helped me some and will no doubt help you too.
10. You Have One Life to Live So Do What You Want With Your Life and Let Nothing or No-one Stop You
And finally my mom always say to us, “you have one life to live so do what you want with your life and allow nothing or no-one to stop you”. This has been like a guide-post for me. It stays with me all the time and remains a picker upper and a motivator every time I’m threatened with derailment of any goals I’ve set. Every time I pursue and move towards something I desire in my path, I rely on these words to keep me going, and move with confidence and conviction. If I get 10 no’s I’ll continue to my yes, because I believe in doing all I can to ensure I get to live my life – just the way I want to.
I’ve shared these 10 empowering things my mom taught me with you so that you too can be empowered by them.
What are some things you learned from your mom that are still helping you today? Do share with me in the comment section below.
Katherine Goldman is a Cognitive Psychologist and Behavioral Mentor attaining her doctoral credentials from the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She has used her psychological training over the years to impact thousands of women and young adults, and have since added coaching to her repertoire of skills. Katherine recently joined our team as a Life Coach here at My Blooming Biz International where she is helping women overcome obstacles and reclaim their lives. When Katherine is not busy changing women’s lives, you can find her trekking to one of her favorite places around the globe, spending quality time with her family and friends, or in her kitchen cooking up a storm.
Happy New Year!!! It’s the beginning of a brand new year for many of us across the world, and a perfect time to pull out our dusty dreams, re-polish them, and put our best foot forward in realizing them.
Here at My Blooming Biz International, we are beginning our year with a well-rested, rejuvenated mind/body/spirit that is refocused and ready to continue our mission – helping you achieve your goals and materialize your dreams. Our CEO had her year-end retreat as usual, this time in the very relaxing mountains of Texas’ Siddhayatan Retreat, and the outcome of her taking time out to relax and reflect is nothing less than what we expect of our leader.
Our fifth biannual Design Your Dream Lifestyle event will be held on January 27th in Washington DC, and if you haven’t yet attended one of our events and you are looking for help in reconfiguring/reconstructing your life, this event is for you. Get your ticket at Eventbrite, then download and complete our Lifestyle Designing Workbook. You will need your completed workbook at our DYDL event. For those of you who are still on the fence about the direction in which you need to go, and will not be able to attend this event, we have curated a few articles to help you make a decision, and begin taking deliberate action.
Regardless of where you are right now, you can take steps to bring about your desired outcome. You can get from where you are to where you want to be, and it all begin with a single step – the first step. Remember, only you can see your vision, but others can help you realize it. We are here to help you materialize your vision, and we are equipped with programs, workshops, and an empowered community of women to help you get through each phase as you transition.
And as always, if you are unsure of your next step in getting to your dreams or you’re experiencing indecision, you can Schedule a free 30 minutes clarity call with us.
We are growing! In 2017, 100 women attended our events, and this year over 150 women have attended. Of the over 150 women who attended, 102 have signed up for 1 or more of our programs and workshops, and 91 have completed their respective program. This is a huge success for us, but we are aiming higher in 2019. We are looking for 100% programs and workshops completion, and will not be satisfied until that goal is met. We want all our women to succeed, and constantly seek out ways to ensure we make this a reality. Of course, our participants have to do their part, but we must improve their chances by improving our vetting, placement, and follow up.
We also kicked off our Transformational Book Series – Our Picks in January, where we highlighted books that we have read and continue to use in our many programs here at My Blooming Biz, that are geared towards women empowerment. If you’ve participated in any of our programs and workshops, we have already passed their knowledge on to you. If you have not participated in any of our programs, go ahead and get started on purchasing, reading, and implementing those strategies imparted by some of the world’s best minds. Remember, books are collective reservoirs of minds that can edify and help enhance your life, but only if you seek them out, open, and read them – then begin implementing.
We are constantly looking for ways to improve our processes, and one area we can greatly improve is by publishing content that is relevant to what we are about here at My Blooming Biz – women empowerment. If you believe you can contribute to this effort, learn more and submit your piece here.
We look forward to continue having you in our influential Power Circle and being an important part of our community in 2019, and beyond.
Money Maven, Patrice C. Washington continues to show herself worthy of that title by putting forth invaluable money-making, money-maximizing, money-retaining tips and strategies that will ensure you succeed financially well into the future – if you heed them. Like a true money maven, Patrice begin the book by addressing Money Mindset issues because she knows that that is a huge issue with many women, and so many repeat the same behaviors over and over without learning that the root cause of their money problem is in their belief system. Excuses, myths, and attitudes about how to handle money are all addressed and knocked out right away. She touched on various aspects of using your God given gifts and talents to find ways to earn more money. She talked about creating a game plan for organizing and managing your money and some financial tools you can use. She later digs deep into managing money and relationships; and how to make them both work for you. It covers every single topic of money you can think of such as:
How to say no to family members/friends who keep asking you for money
How to end generational negligence on money in your family
How to raise your children to understand money and how it works
How to accumulate and build generational wealth
The book is compartmentalized in 4 sections:
Section 1: Create Wealthy Habits
Section 2: Earn More Money
Section 3: Manage Money Wisely
Section 4: Relationships and Money
Patrice does not believe in “emergency fund” as that instigate expecting things to go wrong, and it makes perfect sense – if you believe in the Law of Attraction as we do here at My Blooming Biz. As she explains, if you handle your money the way you are suppose to, then you will already have more than enough money in your possession to take care of that “emergency” – should it occur. You cannot get any more real about money answers than what Patrice shares in this book. She gives, real, honest and practical tips to winning at the money game.
As we always say, no-one is perfect, and likewise no book is perfect. She over-mentions Steve Harvey (but who wouldn’t with the significant clout he embodies). She recommends not helping your family/friends financially if they need your help and you have the means to (which we disagree with and you can choose to agree or disagree as well). However, do not allow these few items to take away from all the vital gems she shares that can literally change your financial game for the better. Patrice C. Washington is right up there with other finance superstars such as, Suze Orman, Chris Hogan and Dave Ramsey. Get this book, Real Money Answers for Every Woman: How to Win the Money Game With or Without a Man, read it and begin implementing its strategies.
Control Your Thoughts
Money Maven, Patrice C. Washington continues to show herself worthy of that title by putting forth invaluable money-making, money-maximizing, money-retaining tips and strategies that will ensure you succeed financially well into the future – if you heed them. Like a true money maven, Patrice begin the book by addressing Money Mindset issues because she knows that that is a huge issue with many women, and so many repeat the same behaviors over and over without learning that the root cause of their money problem is in their belief system. Excuses, myths, and attitudes about how to handle money are all addressed and knocked out right away. She touched on various aspects of 
