by My Blooming Biz | Apr 14, 2018 | Empowerment Tools, Wholistic Empowerment, Women Empowerment
The ego is one of the biggest culprit that robs us of experiencing real joy, peace, and fulfillment. It gets in the way of every facet of our life, and is the number one reason for breakup of marriages, family ties, and even business relationships. This ego has to be tempered or it will continue to wreak havoc in our lives.
What is Ego?
The Psychological Definition of Ego:
If you’ve done any study in Psychology, you know that Ego is seen and defined in a more complicated, entailed way and not the usual simple definition of ego. According to Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalytic theory, there are three parts to the personality: the ego, the id, and the superego. The ego is the psychological component of the personality that is represented by our conscious decision-making process. The id is the instinctual, biological component, and the superego is the social component of our personality and conscience, and our behavior is determined by the interaction of all three components. We experience three levels of consciousness: unconsciousness – outside of our awareness at all times; pre-consciousness – knowledge and memories we can retrieve; and consciousness – our current awareness.
The Simple Definition of Ego
For our purpose today, we will be using the Simple definition of ego which is: a person’s sense of self-esteem, self-importance, or self-worth. The part of us that feels the need to be special, commands approval, and often feels lacking in some way – countering opposition to our perceived self image. That is what ego is in the simpler sense, and that’s what we’ll zone in on.
First of all, we are not our ego! And one of the most powerful ways to change our life is to step back from our ego. There is you, and there is also your ego, and you are not the same as your ego. You are not your thoughts, your created identity, or your life story. You are the awareness behind the thoughts, the one that has the ability to observe the thinker. This distinction has the power to change your whole life.
So the ego lets you create that self based on external forces such as society’s norms (how you should look, feel, act) as well as internal forces such as (how you see yourself) based on your evolution and experiences thus far in your years, and is always present to protect and promote that self if it is ever threatened or challenged. The problem is, that creation is not a true representation of you.
Many of the emotions we experience, especially the negatives ones like anger or anxiety, are the result of thoughts we have. As we observe events in our daily lives, we interpret them in our minds, and our interpretations do not always accurately reflect reality. We often misjudge the actions, motives, or thoughts of other people. We also spend much of our time “lost in our heads” as we think about the past or future while missing the present moment. When we split ourselves in this way, when our bodies are here in the now while our mind is in the past or future, we open the gateways for many negative emotions, such as regret or fear.
Thus, our ego/thoughts is often the cause of our suffering. Ego is easily offended, and when facing disagreement, it likes to be right and wants to win. It prefers winning over harmony. It often tries to control others because ego likes things to be a certain way. At its best, ego may manifest as pride, but at its worst, ego is the cause of nearly all the violence and suffering that exists in our world.
Yet there is no doubt that our ego seems to be a natural part of life. Early in our childhood we begin to understand ourselves as separate individuals, and this process of developing our ego continues dramatically into our adolescence. As adults, we continue to revise and develop our sense of self with a tendency to identify so strongly with this identity we’ve constructed, that we forget our true nature. The challenge is to reconnect with our core – the awareness that is present when we step back from our ego.
How to Keep Your Ego in Check
Channel Your Awareness
Now that you know what ego is, and its pervasiveness in your life, make a concerted effort to channel it so that it works for you and not against you. And the most effective way to do this is to channel your awareness of its presence in your everyday affairs and sidestep it when not needed. It is always there but it is not always needed, and recognizing the different times is major in using it to your advantage. According to Eckhart Tolle in his book The Power of Now, “Awareness is the beginning of becoming free of the ego because then you realize that your thoughts – and the negative emotions they produce — are dysfunctional and unnecessary.”
Practice Gratitude
When you have a grateful heart, you will be happier. You will view people, situations, and things in a lighter way, and the ego will have no place to dwell. We know it may be difficult for some of you to practice gratitude because of certain situation you may be enduring. But we implore you to get a journal, document your daily events, and look back through your journal – periodically, to see all that you’ve accomplished.
In addition, they say gratitude opens doors, and we can attest to that! Whether you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, it is still working. And it can work either for or against you! So the sooner you get on board and channel it for your best, the sooner you will start having a more amazing life. Depending on what you are looking to accomplish, the Law of Attraction requires happiness in order to function effectively for you. Happiness is a prerequisite! That is one reason we stress the importance of finding your happy place, so you can easily get back to that happy place after a temporary diversion, such as mourning a loss.
Practice Humility
“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” Again, we know this may be difficult for some of you who, for no reason of your own but genetics. You have a hard time taking the lower seat or putting someone else’s needs above your own, but we can assure you that if you adopt Stephen R. Covey’s 5th Habit “Seek first to understand, then to be understood” it will take you to a place of humility giving you a sense of calm and control that will ultimately put that ego on notice.
Life is better when your ego is not in charge. Here are some reasons why:
You Make Better Decisions – When you step back from your ego, you will make better decisions in your life. You’ll find that your choices will be based on what ultimately matters to you, what you value on a deeper level, and not just the superficial whims of your ego identity. Ego has a tendency to value things like status, material gain, and image. When you are not ruled by your ego, peace, love, and sharing are more likely to become priorities – the intangibles.
You are Able to Live & Be Present in the Moment – One of the most significant changes that takes place when you step back from your ego is that you experience the present moment more often. By learning how to observe your thoughts instead of identifying with them, you also learn to observe everything else. You’ll be more aware of your surroundings; more things will surprise you that you never noticed before. Even the same walk you take every day can feel fresh and new when you aren’t experiencing the cached version in your head.
You Experience More Happiness & Improved Moods – When you no longer identify with every thought in your head, they do not have as much of an affect on you. You can experience your thoughts and the emotions they trigger much like the weather, something that is always changing that you don’t really have control of. To learn more about this concept, read You Can Be Happy No Matter What, an excellent book on how thoughts affect our mood.
You Experience More Peace & Fewer Arguments – When you are aware of ego’s agenda, you are less likely to identify with it. If you have a thought that causes you to feel angry, you can learn to just observe the reaction almost as if it were happening to someone else. You still feel the anger, but you will be less likely to act if you realize it is your ego that feels wounded. By learning to step back from your ego, you’ll find you have fewer arguments with family and friends. You will also notice when others are acting through ego.
You Experience More Freedom – When you free yourself from the grip of your ego, you’ll realize how many things you were doing just to please your ego, and you may decide to stop doing some of those things. You’ll also care less about what people think of you. You’ll notice when others are acting through ego and trying to control you, but you aren’t easily manipulated when you are aware of what is happening. When you stop identifying with your ego, you can finally relax and just be yourself.
So why not just get rid of it? Because it has its purpose. For example, ego is capable of giving you that boost of confidence that you can achieve whatever goal you are pursuing, based on the self image you have created for you. So ego can be good or bad; temper it, and live an amazing life.
With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,
by My Blooming Biz | Apr 13, 2018 | Empowerment Tools, Financial Empowerment, Transformational Books, Wholistic Empowerment, Women Empowerment
In January we kicked off a new MBB series to highlight transformational books for women called, Transformational Book Series – Our Picks. This month we’re excited to continue the series by sharing with you our next transformational book in the series – Abundance Now by Lisa Nichols & Janet Switzer.
We have chosen and added this book to our transformational picks because it has helped us and our clients in our quest for abundance, and we want you to know that abundance is available to you as well – if only you acknowledge that it is, and take the necessary action steps to pull in YOUR abundance. There is enough for YOU too! Change your mindset, change your life!
Lisa Nichols have had her share of turmoil and financial lack. But being a caring, devoted, conscious mom – like many of us are, she decided that what she was experiencing was not going to be passed on to her son. She was going to be a positive, prosperous role model and leave a legacy for her posterity. In addition, she was determined that she deserved more, and resolved that in order to access abundance NOW she must break out of the defeatist mindset, negative behavior, and bad habits that were holding her back from success and change her life’s direction.
Lisa Nichols vision for this book is that all of us who partake will create a life that is rich in every way possible, focusing on the four E’s – Enrichment, Enchantment, Engagement, and Endowment which Lisa terms “the framework upon which a fulfilled existence is built”. We couldn’t agree more!
Lisa Nichols Framework on Which a Fulfilled Existence is Built
1. Enrichment – Techniques for developing your SELF – including the personal skill-set you need to create the compelling life experiences you want.
2. Enchantment – Step by step guidelines to improve, attract, and empower “rocket-boosting” RELATIONSHIPS that grow you, empower you, and nurture you.
3. Engagement – Ways to make your WORK, career, or business a powerful investor in your breathtaking life – from providing the money you need to becoming the platform for your vision.
4. Endowment – Strategies for creating a life of MONEY and other privileged circumstances that allow you to pursue your work, family activities, lifestyle, social change – anything you want to do.
In this book you will find provocative lessons, actionable plans, and real-life case studies that make clear what we must do everyday to attract abundance. It is filled with strategies on how we are to act as though we are already living abundant lives in order to open the door to a life of richness – in our work, relationships, and finances.
Like many of us here at MBB, this book will help you to open doors that you thought were impossible! Taking time out to do all the lessons in this book will not only give you perspective and a new lease on life, but will also boost your self confidence which will work to attract all the good things you envision for your life.
Lisa’s book has been adopted and used here at My Blooming Biz because her practical approach in mindset shifting as a precursor to abundance is what we strongly believe in and encouraged. We must believe than we can, before we can actually be rewarded with desired results. Our thoughts, words, and actions must be in alignment in order to bring forth WHATEVER we desire.
Lisa Nichols is visionary, and this book is life-changing. Get this book Abundance Now: Amplify Your Life & Achieve Prosperity Today, read all 336 pages, implement the strategies in your life, and expect your abundance – NOW.
With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,
by My Blooming Biz | Apr 9, 2018 | Empowerment Tools, Personal Growth & Development, Wholistic Empowerment, Women Empowerment
Yes!!! Confidence is that “must have” every woman needs – if they are to succeed at anything.
As women, we are constantly bombarded with requirements on how we should look, act, feel and express ourselves, and because we are all different and the one-size-fits-all pedagogy does not work, some of us fall victim – attempting to conform to unattainable standards. This is a confidence killer! Looking externally for approval which will never come; for always there will be someone who is displeased with something about you.
Another very deep-rooted confidence killer is growing up in a household that is run by hurt people. It is true what they say, “Hurt people do hurt people!”. A lot of women grew up in households where the parents or guardians were victims of verbal and physical abuse, that were possibly passed down from one generation to the next, and the hurt they experience in a place where they should be able to take solace and be shielded, is the thing that damage them in so many ways – for many years and sometimes for life. Yes, some women were constantly told from an early age that they are: not good enough, will never amount to anything, no man will want to marry you, you’re doomed. There is absolutely no doubt that these women will have the hardest time loving, embracing, and empowering themselves. But it is not impossible! And it is necessary for your success! Of course, some women who experienced these things by their loved-ones will possibly need therapy, but with the right help, healing can take place, and will if they commit to the process.
Regardless of what is hindering your self confidence, you need it! And so you must ascertain what the root cause is, and work at eliminating it. In addition to seeking out therapy for those of you who experienced this psychological trauma in your homes growing up that has led to your self degradation, here are a few tips to ward off this pervasive evil of projected conformity and secure your space of confidence:
1) Empower yourself. Know that YOU have the power to reshape your life, then give yourself permission to do so. This includes clearing out past hurts and hindrances from your life, examining YOU to see how you want to be, and redefining yourself. Fix the things you do not like about yourself! Clothes not fitting the way you want? Eat healthier, work out. Not digging your limited vocabulary? Learn new words. Have a friend who makes you feel bad about yourself? Let that friend go! Goodbye! Adios! Bon Voyage! The key is to ensure you are doing it for you.
Empowering yourself also includes setting yourself up to win. Too many women are discouraged about their abilities because they set themselves goals that are too difficult to achieve. Start by setting yourself small goals that you can win easily. Once you have built a stream of successes that make you feel good about yourself, you can then move on to harder goals. Make sure that you also keep a list of all your achievements, both large and small, to remind yourself of the times that you have done well – and celebrate ALL your accomplishments.
“To establish true self-confidence, we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” – Denis Waitley
2) Affirm yourself – always. “Affirmations are a powerful tool to deliberately install desired beliefs about yourself.” – Nikki Carnevale
Affirmations are positive and uplifting statements that we say to ourselves. These are normally more effective if said out loud so that you can hear yourself say it. We tend to believe whatever we tell ourselves constantly. For example, if you hate your own physical appearance, practice saying something that you appreciate or like about yourself when you next look in the mirror. To get your brain to accept your positive statements more quickly, phrase your affirmations as “I am” as in “I am beautiful and smart” “I am a confident woman”. Say it loud with power and conviction! Then act like it!
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise L. Hay
3) Build yourself a safe space and decide who you let into your space. Yes, stay clear of people who does nothing for your self esteem. There are some people we let into our space that are detrimental to our very well-being. They’re always cynical, rarely supportive of anything we do, and never compliments us on anything. Yet, these same people are the ones we not only allow to be a part of our close circle, but we also look to them for approval. No more!
The king is a ruler and so is cash! The Queen is the activator and so is confidence! Can’t do very much without cash, and you won’t get very far without confidence. Confidence is that thing that you embody that allows the magic of the universe to conspire in your favor. You see without confidence you will not be able to effectively share your talents and gifts, and garner the support and attention you need for your efforts. Without confidence you will be overlooked – plain and simple! You need confidence to get to that cash. Work that confidence!
Grace Killelea, in her book The Confidence Effect: Every Woman’s Guide to the Attitude That Attracts success
, delve into the attributes that help to build self confidence that women find hard to embody while men embrace with ease. She also reminds us that we need to dress up, show up, and “own” our competence. Get this book, read it, and implement her strategies to help boost your confidence.
So there you have it, Confidence: The “Must Have” Every Woman Needs – If Cash is King Confidence is Queen
With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,
by My Blooming Biz | Mar 27, 2018 | Empowerment Tools, Transformational Books, Wholistic Empowerment, Women Empowerment
In January we kicked off a new MBB series to highlight transformational books for women called, Transformational Book Series – Our Picks. This month we’re excited to continue the series by sharing with you our next transformational book in the series – The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale.
We are not only featuring this book because it has helped all of us here at MBB – from CEO to management to staff improve our lives, but we are saluting the author – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale and crediting his book because we have used its teaching to help hundreds of women around the globe empower themselves.
Dr.Peale’s vision for his book was to help individuals achieve fulfillment in their lives and live a happy, satisfying and worthwhile life, and he has achieved that – as many of us will attest. He demonstrates the power of faith in action with practical techniques that will energize and move you to take initiative in realizing your vision and ambition with hope.
This book will equip you with strategies to:
1) Believe in yourself
2) Develop the power to reach your goals
3) Improve your personal and professional relationships
4) Assume control over your circumstances
5) Be gentle and kind to yourself
6) Breakthrough with new power and determination
Like many of us here at MBB, this book will help you to breakthrough barriers using positive thinking which has the potential to attract what we ponder on into our lives. It is filled with anecdotal evidence and can prove very effective when practiced! Read it all the way through and highlight important parts or the portions that speak to you, then read at least one highlighted passage every day. It includes affirmations that you can speak out loud to help boost your morale, faith in yourself and channel you to consistent positive thinking.
We have utilized these strategies here at MBB, in addition to many others that we have harnessed over the years, and if you are a client of ours we have already passed them on to you through one or more of our many programs and workshops here. But for those of you who are reading this and it’s new to you, go ahead and get this book, read it, and implement these strategies in your life. We have just narrowly touched the surface of this book in this blog post, and there is so much more for you to experience and grasp from Dr. Peale himself in his book.
Dr. Norman Vincent Peale is insightful, and this book is refreshing. Get this book The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, read it, implement the strategies in your life, and expect to be improved – wholistically.
With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,
by My Blooming Biz | Feb 13, 2018 | Empowerment Tools, Personal Growth & Development, Transformational Books, Wholistic Empowerment, Women Empowerment
Last month marked the start of a new MBB series to highlight transformational books for women called Transformational Book Series – Our Picks. This month we’re excited to continue the series by sharing with you our next transformational book in the series – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.
We have adopted his principle-centered, holistic approach to efficiency in our programs, and it is highly attributive to our culture and operations here at MBB.
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People outlines seven habits everyone must have in order to navigate life effectively. We all know that there is an order to things in this life, but what the author has done in this book is to orchestrate the order and clarify its components. He has established timeless principles that have proven effective to millions of people around the world, and women have used them to transform their lives enormously.
So what are these 7 habits of highly effective people?
Habit.1) Be Proactive
Habit.2) Begin with the end in mind
Habit.3) Put first things first
Habit.4) Think win win
Habit.5) Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Habit.6) Synergize
Habit.7) Sharpen the Saw
Be Proactive
As we continue to emphasize in all our programs here at MBB, you must remain proactive in all your endeavors. People who are proactive accomplish more with less time, and are proven to be happier than people who are reactive – accomplishing less with more time. In reactive living one focuses on the things he or she cannot control and continuously complain about it – uselessly, while the proactive lifestyler focus on what he or she can control and influence, and using those things to improve their situation.
Begin With The End in Mind
This approach serves us well when applied to everything we set out to do. And that is why it is so deeply engraved in everything we do here at MBB. When you visualize your end goal, you end up having a strategic vision for yourself or your business. You will then set and implement SMART goals with each task aligning and moving you closer to that vision being accomplished. That vision of your end goal will keep you anchored, and the strategic steps you’ve laid out in your goal book will simplify the process encouraging you to keep going as you move forward and the end becomes closer and clearer in view. If you don’t know what you want, you will not know how to get it, and if you don’t know where you’re going, you will not know how to get there.
Put First Things First
In our modern day super busy lifestyle, if we’re not careful we can run ourselves into the ground “busy doing everything” but accomplishing very little in the process. And so this habit is designed to help us prioritize. Prioritizing how we use our most important resource – time, is paramount if we are to live efficiently – using less time to get more. This habit is divided into four quadrants where you will layout all your dealings or things to do in order of priority. They are: Quadrant 1 – important and urgent, Quadrant 2 – important but not urgent, Quadrant 3 – urgent but not important, and Quadrant 4 – not urgent and not important. This setup allows us to live our lives according to the values we choose for ourselves, and enable us to consciously use our time to focus on those things that are taking us closer to our goals in quadrant 1, with the rest of our time spent in quadrant 2 improving ourselves.
Think Win Win
For the most part, we all want to win when we compete. And for a lot of things such as sports competition, someone has to lose in order for the other to win. In many things however, such as in business, a person or company does not have to lose in order for another to win. We can entertain what Stephen Covey calls the Win Win approach – which means finding ways to build interdependent relationships and make business deals that are mutually beneficial to all involved. Thinking win win can only happen when parties involved are approaching the relationship from an abundance mentality rather than a scarcity mentality. The abundance mentality as the name suggests, is having the world view that that there is plenty of “success” out there for everyone to have, while the scarcity mentality will put you in a “zero-sum” mind-frame which says, “If you get it, I don’t.”
Seek First to Understand Then to Be Understood
This is huge! Your important relationships could benefit from this. Many times in relationships we end up escalating discourse that could have been simply resolved, into big “OOC” arguments that many times causes hurtful words to be introduced that are relationship-killing. We each so deftly want to be understood, that no effort is made to understand the other party. Imagine, if we listen to understand, instead of listening only to respond. This principle can also be applied to religion, race, countries. Can you imagine what would happen if we all seek first to understand, then to be understood?
Synergize
We love synergy here at MBB! What this habit means is to engage in teamwork so openly and so well that even disagreements and differences of opinion can somehow lead to finding new ways of approaching a problem or even solving them. When members in a team are thinking win win and seeking first to understand each other, it will have no alternative but to lead to synergy, aligning on the same side with the same goals, and finding creative solutions despite the earlier disagreement in managing the project. This habit if adopted by everyone, could change our world for the better. No more wars, killings, fightings – just synergizing and basically finding common ground.
Sharpen the Saw
Yes, we cannot become so complacent that we stop learning, improving, and growing. Sharpening our Saw means taking the time to ensure our minds, bodies, and spirits are ready to take on the challenge of constant improvement. However, this cannot happen unless we take a step back from our hectic, ever demanding schedules in order to rest, reflect, read and fill our spirits, and spend quality time with our loved ones doing the things we all enjoy doing – at regular intervals. To remain highly effective, we must constantly recharge and restore our body, mind and spirit.
We have adopted these principles here at MBB, in addition to many others that we have harnessed over the years, and if you are a client of ours we have already passed them on to you through one or more of our many programs and workshops here. But for those of youwho are reading this and it’s new to you, go ahead and get this book, read it, and apply these habits and principles to your life. We have just narrowly touched the surface of this book in this blog post, and there is so much more for you to experience and grasp from Stephen R Covey himself in his book.
Stephen R. Covey is a mastermind, and this book is a masterpiece. Get this book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People By Stephen R. Covey, read it, implement the strategies in your life, and we promise you – you will NEVER be the same again! In a good way!
With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,
by Katherine Goldman | Feb 2, 2018 | Empowerment Tools, Personal Growth & Development, Wholistic Empowerment, Women Empowerment
“Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.” ~ Dale Carnegie
There is nothing like living your passion! I cannot think of anything that can compare to doing what you love, loving what you do, and seeing the results of your labor. I remember my passion for helping people igniting in me and I took it and ran with it. As a young girl, I was always giving advice to my peers from what to say in situations to how to behave. And I have to say, it felt great when they came back and told me how well it all worked out. Today, I’m a Cognitive Psychologist and Behavioral Mentor and I couldn’t be happier in my life. Listen, when you are doing what you love in the form of a profession, it makes you happy, and when you are happy, it makes it easier to deal with all the other aspects of your life. Your family life, your friendships, your community engagements – every area of your life benefit from you being happy and fulfilled – and that’s what Dale Carnegie’s “throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart” will do for you.
“To be all we can be we must dream of being more. To do all that is possible, we must attempt the impossible.” ~ John C. Maxwell
There are so many things we don’t know about ourselves, about life, about what is possible and what is not possible, about what we can and cannot do, and most of us choose to believe everything other people tell us to believe without questioning a single word.
I remember when I was a little girl, I had a very strong belief that grown-ups – especially the elders, had the answers to all of my questions and I believed everything they told me as being true – not questioning a single word. Well, as I grew up, things changed, I changed, and I started using more of my own brain power, questioning all the things that no longer made sense for me. If we have a brain, we might as well use it, right? Unfortunately, not all of us are willing to do it and that is why we don’t think and just allow others do most of the thinking for us. Well, if you want to start living your dreams, you have to start thinking and doing for yourself. If you haven’t found your passion as yet, now would be a good time to start seeking out what it is. There is no way around it! In order for you to live your dreams you must do what you love, love what you do, and embrace life with all you’ve got. As we say here at My Blooming Biz, Design and Live Your Dream Lifestyle.
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” ~ Buddha
We need dreams! They keep us alive. Without dreams we are like birds with broken wings. And in order for dreams to come true, we must actualize and materialize them. And the best way to do that is to create a plan, set SMART goals, and work consistently at it – with discipline.
You don’t have dreams? Did I hear you right?
Well then, get you a pen and a piece of paper and let your imagination run wild. Start visualizing then actualizing your vision. Write down everything you imagine becoming, everything you want to have and everything you want to be. Don’t be afraid, if you haven’t done this in a while, or maybe never done, you might think you have little or nothing to write, but that’s not true. You know it and I know it, so just get to writing.
Remember when you were a little girl and you knew exactly what you wanted to do with your life? Remember how you used to dream all day long about the great things you would one day accomplish? What happened to those dreams? I will tell you what happened. Everyone around you started telling you how things aren’t the way you think they are, and that life is hard, life is tough and you need to be more realistic…and you gave up. You became one of them and you decided to leave your dreams behind you. That was how you forgot about your dreams.
Such a sad story, isn’t it? Not really. If you can find the courage to bring them back to life and work towards making them come true, it won’t be a sad but a wonderful life story – the story of your life.
So start writing.
Ask yourself:
What do I really want?
Write down all that comes to your mind, whether you think is crazy or not, whether you think is possible or impossible. It does not matter. Forget about your limits and dare to dream, big dreams, for they are the ones that move the hearts of men as Goethe once said.
After making your list, wait an hour or two to pass, read the list and ask yourself these questions:
Why do I want this?
If you can’t seem to get an answer, then it’s not really a dream, and it won’t become a goal for you. We don’t want to waste any time on something we don’t really want. Cross it off your list. We only want those things that keep us focused, enthusiastic, excited, and passionate. Your “why” should do all this.
We don’t want to be living somebody else’s dream, right? We’re done with doing that! We only want to do those things that bring us joy, peace, and happiness. We only want to do those things that are morally right for us and for those around us.
If you have doubts about any of them, you will have to cross them off the list. We have to make sure that we set our goals properly for a goal properly set is halfway reached as Abraham Lincoln once said.
With those dreams that are left, ask yourself:
Will each and every one of them make me feel better about myself?
Will they will bring inner peace and joy into my life and the lives of those I love?
Will my dreams help me live a healthier and more abundant life?
Will they help me make new and wonderful friends?
Will they help me meet new people, people who can help me grow and learn new and interesting things?
We don’t want any “No’s”. If you have one, two or more of them, you will want to cut those dreams off your list also. You might think it is nonsense but it’s not. We have to go through this process in order for you to eliminate all those things you thought you want but don’t really need.
Now that you only have what’s really worth having and what’s really important to you, try to separate them into three (3) categories:
1. Short term goals (1 month or less),
2. Intermediate goals (3 months to a year for achieving your goal)
3. Long term goals (between 1 and 3 years to achieve your goals).
We need small goals and also BIG goals. The small ones to teach us how to be more patient, more disciplined and to make us aware of the fact that the future comes one day at a time and to help reduce the possibility of feeling stuck and frustrated. We also need small goals so we can see results more frequently, and be able to celebrate our wins. Trust me! This is major. Ensure you celebrate all your wins.
We also need BIG goals for they are the ones that can help us grow, they help us reach our full potential. They help us to stretch and reach further.
We all want to live an amazing life and enjoy a high quality of life, and if we are intentional about it, we can live that life.
So now, after doing all this “hard work” that some of you thought as being impossible, rewrite all of them on your notebook or place them somewhere you can see and read them often – a visual board. You can also make them into a vision board at a later time using pictures to represent each.
Let’s not forget, what’s out of sight is also out of our mind. At first, see if you can read your goals and intentions every day if possible, it should only take you five to ten minutes.
And make sure you commit yourself to making your dreams come true.
Take action, have fun and remember to enjoy life – one step at a time.
Also remember,
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” ~ Lao-Tzu
Now, do tell! What are some of the amazing things you intend to make happen?
Share with us in the comment section.
Love & Light,
Katherine Goldman is a Cognitive Psychologist and Behavioral Mentor attaining her doctoral credentials from the University of Massachusetts Amherst. She has used her psychological training over the years to impact thousands of women and young adults, and have since added coaching to her repertoire of skills. Katherine recently joined our team as a Life Coach here at My Blooming Biz International where she is helping women overcome obstacles and reclaim their lives. When Katherine is not busy changing women’s lives, you can find her trekking to one of her favorite places around the globe, spending quality time with her family and friends, or in her kitchen cooking up a storm.
We have chosen and added this book to our transformational picks because it has helped us and our clients in our quest for abundance, and we want you to know that abundance is available to you as well – if only you acknowledge that it is, and take the necessary action steps to pull in YOUR abundance. There is enough for YOU too! Change your mindset, change your life!
, delve into the attributes that help to build self confidence that women find hard to embody while men embrace with ease. She also reminds us that we need to dress up, show up, and “own” our competence. Get this book, read it, and implement her strategies to help boost your confidence.
We are not only featuring this book because it has helped all of us here at MBB – from CEO to management to staff improve our lives, but we are saluting the author – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale and crediting his book because we have used its teaching to help hundreds of women around the globe empower themselves.
We have adopted his principle-centered, holistic approach to efficiency in our programs, and it is highly attributive to our culture and operations here at MBB.
