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One of the most difficult things to cope with, is failure at anything we deem important. It can bring on a deep sense of loss, of self-worth, and many times have us question ourselves – whether or not we are even capable of accomplishing anything worth accomplishing. We cannot immediately see through the hurt and the pain to uncover the reasons why it happened. However, failure is evolutionary – it helps us to grow, mature, and reach deeper understandings about life, what we want, and why we want it. It helps us to become better persons, expanding our minds while deepening our hearts. So as much as failure can hurt very deeply at times, without failure, we couldn’t appreciate our successes. It is nature’s way of rebooting our lives while keeping us grounded.
If you’ve recently failed at something that you believed in wholeheartedly, all hope isn’t lost. Failure is not the end of the road! Whether it was failure in relationships, love, business, finances, career, or anything else, failure isn’t the end. In fact, failure is just the beginning. If you can get pass that initial shock, hurt, pain and analyze the entire process, then you will be able to revamp and use the results of your analysis to position you more favorably to succeed.
Yes, sometimes the failure is so huge, you would rather not try anything remotely close again, but the decision you make here to either try again or give up entirely, will be a game-changer for your life. Almost all of us have given up entirely on something after failure, no matter how big or small that failure was – from marriages to careers, and everything in between, something that once meant something to us – after failure, didn’t really seem to mean that much at all anymore. But does that mean that if we fail at something we didn’t really want it in the first place? Or, is it that the pain of failure forces us to create some dissonance between the old goal and the new post-failure self?
When you have a strong enough deep-rooted reason why you need to succeed, success is not optional – it’s a must! And whenever something is a must the only thing that separates you from that goal is time. So if you have a “must” you need to accomplish, and you have failed at it before, reassess your process leading up to your failure and redesign a new approach to ensure your future success.
One very powerful thing to do in addition to reassessing and redesigning a new process, is to create or recreate an inspirational vision board in your home and pin photos that you’ve found depicting your life goal. Place it conspicuously so you can stare at success in front of you as you go throughout your day. See it, feel it, breathe it, and mentally live it until it’s physically real! Reorganize, setup new strategies, and take consistent action towards your goal – everyday. Do what you say you are going to do and eventually you will succeed.
Regardless of the level of failure you experience in your life, never allow it to throw you off your life path or compromise your goals, dreams, beliefs, and integrity. Keep believing in yourself and your abilities to accomplish whatever you desire, and formulate new ways and approaches to accomplish them. As our CEO Eugénie Nugent always remind us after any bout of failure, “deduct the lessons from your losses then toss them, and use those lessons as catalyst for your advancement.”
With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,
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Some failures are pretty difficult to get over, especially when you know you’ve given it your all. But I’ve learned to move pass stumbling block, view them as setback which means I’m going to move forward again.
Loving your positivity Gillian 🙂 Of course our outlook and how we view things will make all the difference.
Thanks for sharing!
“Pick yourself up and try again!” I think there is a song out there for this. LOL! Giving up is never an option, especially if it’s what we know we really need. But sometimes what we need requires more effort than many of us are willing to put in. BOOM!
Yes indeed Nora, there is such a song titled “Try Again” by the late, great Aaliyah! May her precious soul rest in peace. “If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again”. Mantra #GOAL2019 Never give up!!! And yes, we must put in more than we expect to get out.
Thanks for chiming in!
This right here says it all! “When you have a strong enough deep-rooted reason why you need to succeed, success is not optional – it’s a must! And whenever something is a must the only thing that separates you from that goal is time.”
Absolutely Jennifer! There you have it – the key to success, your “why”.
Thanks for chiming in 🙂
I don’t like failing at anything and that is why I usually give whatever I’m doing, my all. Some things though, like relationships, are not totally dependent on us to be successful and those are the failures that can hit the hardest. Your advice to evaluate and take the lesson away, is what I’m sure will make whoever take this advice, a better person.
As always, appreciate your posts 🙂
Thanks Desiree! We don’t like you failing either, but with your attitude and approach, you will definitely experience more success than failure.
Thanks for contributing 🙂
Great article! And a lot of helpful tips to bear in mind as I navigate this pavement of life. Hate failures but I can certainly learn from them. Thank you 🙂
Wow, incredible blog layout! How long have you been blogging for? And what theme are you using?
I use to be very bad at failing and got to the point where I literally was afraid to try anything new because I did not want to fail. That crippled me a lot, and it wasn’t until I learned about putting failure in its proper perspective by analyzing what happened and deducting the lessons from the losses that I actually began to loosen up and let my pursuits flow. And I’m so happy I did!