Next Level Living: How to Connect With Your Higher Self and Embrace It To Live Your Best Life

Many of us aspire to do something meaningful with our lives, and in order to aspire to something we must first suspect that we have the potential to do something more, or different, than whatever it is we are presently doing. We believe every woman is capable of creating a meaningful life for herself; otherwise we would not be wasting our time leading one of the biggest women empowerment movement in North America, or writing this women empowerment blog. YOU must also think you are capable of evolving your life, or you would not be wasting your time being a part of our community, or reading this blog. So if humans have the capacity and drive towards something more, how can we explore that potential and focus our efforts optimally?

For this we’ll take a look at one of the greats who ever walked this earth – Leonardo Da Vinci. He is such a striking example of human potential, that we shouldn’t move to fill his shoes, but rather learn from him to bring out the genius that lies in all of us. As William Manchester writes in his book “A World Lit Only by Fire: The Medieval Mind and the Renaissance: Portrait of an Age” regarding Da Vinci’s life:

“So mighty was his intellect and so broad the spectrum of his gifts—he was, among other things, a master of engineering, biology, sculpture, linguistics, botany, music, philosophy, architecture, and science—that presenting an adequate summary of his feats is impossible.”

And somewhere along the way Da Vinci was able to find time to paint The Adoration of Magi, the Mona Lisa, and The Last Supper.

So how did he do all of that in one lifetime? Was he also a genius at time management or tackling his to-do list? Many others have asked these questions, and some have taken the time to study Da Vinci’s notebooks in an effort to figure out what made him so unique. (He kindly left humanity 7000 pages of hand-written mirror script that can be read when held to a mirror ☺

One of the qualities that emerge from an analysis of his work is that he had an insatiable curiosity about everything. He questioned everything! So how can we apply this to evolving and achieving more in our own life?

It may be as simple as embarking on a self-inquiry journey – connecting with our inner intelligence or higher self, documenting our findings, setting a plan in motion by implementing SMART goals, and moving consistently with discipline in the direction of our vision.

Michael Gelb, in his book “How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci: Seven Steps to Genius Every Day” talks about self-inquiry. He explores how we can exercise our minds on many different levels, and carve out our own life design. Here is his exercise for self inquiry:

1 Grab a notebook that has a lot of blank pages in it.

2 In one sitting, write down 100 questions that are meaningful to you. Don’t worry about grammar, some overlap of questions, or details such as spelling. Gelb says “Any kind of question as long as it’s something you deem significant.” Do not attempt to answer any of them as yet.

3 Read your list and note what themes emerged.

4 Do your best to choose the ten that are most important to you, and rank them according to importance. Refrain from answering any of them as yet.

After completing this exercise, take a break and let it marinade. In about three days, when you have at least 30 minutes to spare, choose one question from your list that seems interesting at the moment. Contemplate the question by writing it again on a blank page, and do your best to keep your mind on the one question and note what thoughts it conjures. Engage in a stream of consciousness writing session on this particular question, and then read over what came out and highlight parts that strike you as insightful. Work through your questions over time, and feel free to add more and also change ranking as your understanding evolves.

We are all unique! Our circumstances, our perceptions, our stories, our paths, the gifts we are each capable of offering the world – all of these are different for everyone. Thus, we cannot strive to be Da Vinci, but what we can each do, is strive to be our best self.

With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude, My Blooming Biz International

3 Things You Must Do To Overcome the Defeat You Experience in The Wake of Failure

How to Overcome Failure

If you’ve ever failed at anything in life, it most likely forced you to think deeply about the situation and everything surrounding it. When we fail, we have a tendency to ponder, but when we succeed, we have a tendency to party. Yes, success must be celebrated, but failure should be embraced as well.

Why Failure Can Be a Good Thing

Failure can be a good thing. Think about it! When we fail at something it humbles us and forces us to examine ourselves and come to grips with our state as human and thus liable to experience failure. It’s through our failures that we gain deeper insights into life, that we expand our horizons, and put our ego in check. If we always win and don’t experience failure, how on God’s green earth are we going to have anything to compare our success to? In other words, how will we appreciate our successes?

Now, every failure is not equal! Some will hit harder than others, and some will be downright destructive and definitely not a good thing. For example, if you’re attending college and you are barely making it as far as the tuition, and you’re in your last semester doing your finals, AND you know that they will be increasing the tuition for the next semester – failing your finals would be disastrous. So in instances like this, failure is not (and cannot) be a good thing. But if you went to your game and your team lost because of you, that’s terrible, but you could learn from it and do better next time.

“If you’ve never failed at anything, then you’ve never pushed yourself past your comfort zone.” – Eugénie Nugent

So How Does One Overcome Failure

You overcome failure by first understanding that failure is not the end – but the precursor to a new beginning, then subtracting the lesson(s) from your losses and then tossing them. Failure can only break you if you let it. Everyone fail at some point or another, but not everyone get back up and try again. All too often, we’re so interested in the instant satisfaction and immediate attainment of things that we’re usually unwilling to tough things out for the long term. However, by toughing it out and not giving up, failure can be used as a platform – it can be a launching-board towards something incredible.

3 Things You Must Do to Overcome the Defeat You Experience in The Wake of Failure

1. Forget About What Others Think About You

For many of us, the biggest part of failing is the shame that comes from not accomplishing something we set out to – especially when there are people who are looking on and thus able to see us fail. That embarrassment at a time when you feel like your world is crashing down on you and you’re thinking, “Oh my God, what are they going to think of me?” can take a toll on you. But only if you let it! You have to garner enough confidence in yourself to know that what others think of you is immaterial. It doesn’t matter what they think! Shift the focus instead to yourself, and start taking a deeper look at why you failed – self assessment. Look for the lessons!

When Sylvester Stallone was rejected over 1500 times by agents in New York City and didn’t have enough money to pay his $25 electricity bill so he had to sell his dog, how do you think he felt? What do you think his friends and family members were saying? And, where would Sylvester Stallone be today if he had given up hope on his dreams, caved in, and gotten a 9-to-5 job? It doesn’t matter how you look in front of other people. What matters is that you don’t give up on your hopes and dreams, keep pushing through, and break through your present-day limitation and failure.

2. Don’t Spend All Your Time Lamenting, Instead Learn

What you have to take away from failure is the lesson that failure gives you. If you spend too much time lamenting and either feeling sorry for yourself or being angry with yourself, you will waste precious time when you could be deducting the lessons and learning instead. Anna Wintour, the famed Vogue Editor, was fired just 9 months on the job at Harper’s Bazaar because the editor thought she was too edgy. But, getting fired there helped her to dig deep and learn from that, taking away an important lesson that pushed her through the tough times and on to greater things.

3. Re-Focus and Re-Position

One of the worst aspect of failure is a total and complete loss of focus. When everything around you collapse, it’s hard to stay focused. When it seems like your whole world is crumbling, it takes an extraordinary amount of focus to regain your footing. But as previously stated, you have to be aware that failure is not the end of the world, and it’s only as bad as you make it out to be in your mind. You have to re-focus, re-position and begin again – using your lesson as a catalyst for more effectual change that will this time ensure you do not fail.

When J.K. Rowling, the famed writer of the Harry Potter series, was fired from her secretarial job for working on the book in her spare time, it wasn’t the end of the world for her. Although it took her 7 years to publish that first book, and suffering through government assistance, a divorce, and the death of her mother, she did it. She persevered! She focused and envisioned a bigger and better life, and you can too!

With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,

My Blooming Biz International

7 Ways to Stop Procrastination In Its Track So You Can Ensure You Accomplish Your Goals

7 Ways to Stop Procrastination in Its Track So You Can Ensure You Achieve Your Goals
Procrastination left unchecked will become habitual, and allowing your procrastination to become habitual is dangerous as it will delay your progress, and inevitably keep you stagnant. Since the mind operates on neural pathways that it carves out over the course of months and years of repetitious behavior, when procrastination is a habit, it’s hard to break. However, when a person is committed enough to do something, they will get it done in spite of obstacles.
“Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin.” — Victor Klam
So, how do you stop procrastinating and start making progress?

Here are 7 Ways to Stop Procrastination in its Track So You Can Achieve Your Goals

1. Ensure the Goal is Something You are Passionate About

When you are in pursuit of something you are passionate about, you are usually enthusiastic about achieving it, and thus more likely to do what it takes to accomplish it. Take for example, your dream of owning a home in a particular neighborhood, you would first take time out to visit the neighborhood, then research houses that are for sale, check the processes as well as the cost range for the houses, and then continue to work on the requirements – regardless of any obstacles. You would think about this everyday, and take consistent steps towards your goal of achieving it, because you are passionate about it. At this point you already have your why for wanting a home as well as for wanting it in that particular neighborhood. And so, if you are ever faced with obstacles, this passion and your why will keep you in hot pursuit of your dream home. If the goal is not something you are passionate about, then it will be 10 times harder to continue pursuing it.

2. Create Clearly Defined Goals with Milestones

In a recent post entitled, How to Ensure You Achieve your Goals in Life, we talked about a three-part method to setting goals through active goal setting rather than passive goal setting which is the key functionality of the SMART goal model. When you actively set your goals, and you write them out on paper or type them on a keyboard on a device, you send a visceral signal to your brain. You’re telling your brain clearly and concisely what you want, why you want it, and when you want it by. This is one of the most important steps to setting goals that many people simply overlook. When you do not write things down, and you merely leave your goals in your mind as some obscure abstracts, it tells your mind that you’re not only not serious about those goals, but that you haven’t envisioned them enough to put them on paper. When they are on paper, they’re real. There’s a real date that you’re aiming to accomplish those goals by, you understand exactly what it is you’re trying to accomplish, and you know why you’re doing it. So, the first way to stop procrastinating so you can accomplish your goals, is to understand exactly what you want and why you want it. Then, when you know what you’re aiming for, you can break those goals down into milestones. You can take your one-year goals, break them down into months, weeks, and even days. Then, things become more manageable and achievable. You know what you have to do today, and you don’t get overwhelmed with the enormity of a huge goal.

3. Utilize the Quadrant System for Time Management

Most people procrastinate because of poor time management. When you cannot manage your time properly, then it becomes hard to get ahead because you are using your time to do the things that are not directly connected to your goal achievement, and by the time you are through there is no time left to do those things that truly matter to your goal accomplishment. The more you fall behind, the harder it will be to catch up, and before you know it, that procrastination becomes habitual and the pattern becomes harder and harder to break. So, you need to institute some time management skills in order to create the best scenario that will allow you to follow through, and not become another victim of procrastination.
“What is important is seldom urgent and what is urgent is seldom important.” – Dwight Eisenhower
In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey – building on Eisenhower’s words – created the Time Management Quadrant System which he explained at length. According to Stephen, there are 4 quadrants, but the one to spend the most time in, is quadrant 2 which deals with the substantive parts of our lives such as building relationships, writing personal mission statements, long-range planning, exercising, preventive maintenance, preparation – all those things we know we need to do, but somehow seldom get around to doing. 5 Ways to Stop Procrastinating So You Can Accomplish Your Goals - Time Management Matrix - My Blooming Biz So, how does time management apply to procrastination?

When you manage your time wisely, that will ensure you do the things that directly contributes to your goal achievement. When you look at your goals and your milestones, you can break your day out into activities. Now, this applies to your free time; if you work a full-time job, then that’s a block of time you cannot skip over. However, when you do have free time, you can break out what you do into any of the four quadrants. Plan your day, so you can write the quadrant that each activity you have to do falls under.

So, the way to tackle procrastination is to ensure that you do the not urgent but important activities first, followed by the urgent and important. Quadrants 3 and 4 should occupy the least amount of your time. If you’re not doing anything towards your long-term goal on a daly basis, then you are increasing the time it will take to accomplish your goal as well as lessening the chance of you ever getting to it. Remember, procrastination becomes a habit, and habits are difficult to break.

4. Implement the 15-Minute Rule

According to health and wellness coach Caroline Buchanan, doing an activity for 15 minutes, and committing only to that block of time, helps to get over the hurdle of procrastination. The concept is that generally when someone does something for 15 minutes, they usually continue doing it for much longer, and by only committing to 15 minutes, you are helping to overcome one of the biggest hurdles in your mind, which simply involves getting started. Get a timer – use your phone, a stop watch, or a clock that you have handy. It has to be something that can count down the time, and place it in front of you. Set the timer to 15 minutes. Then, start doing the activity that you’ve been putting off and commit to doing it for 15 minutes. Try this and come back here and let us know, “What happened when the time ran out?”

5. Keep Your Body, Mind, and Spirit Sharp and Optimized

When pursuing your goals you have to ensure your mind, body and spirit are in tip top shape in order to have the best possible scenario of ensuring success. Eat healthy foods to heighten your energy instead of foods that make you sluggish. Exercise your body, which also rejuvenates the mind. Get ample amount of sleep so your mind and body can be well rested and recharged to tackle whatever phase or hurdle you are in, in your pursuit. Meditate, go for walks, swim, read a book, get together with family and friends, or even volunteer in order to feed your spirit.

6. Change Your Environment

Patterns are developed through environmental cues. For example, when we’re at home, we run a certain set of behaviors that our mind has become accustomed to running but when we can break that pattern and change our environment, we can change our behavior. So, if you always find yourself jumping on the couch, grabbing the television remote, and turning on the television when you know you should be working on your goal, change your environment.

Take your laptop to a coffee shop or grab a notepad and pencil and head out to a park and sit on a bench. You will find that changing your environment can be one of the best ways to break the habits that have formed over time. So, if being in a particular environment is not empowering you to work on your long-term goals, go somewhere else and do it.

7. Locate and Enlist an Accountability Partner

The last method for eliminating procrastination in your life is to find an accountability partner. Accountability partnerships work when they are a collaboration between two colleagues who like and respect one another — your partner is someone you trust, who will keep you honest and moving on a path you set for yourself. For example, if the goal involves getting to the gym 3 days per week, then having an accountability partner can help to motivate one another. When you’re feeling down they can help to push you, and when they’re feeling down, you can help to push them.

Also, if you promise someone you will meet them at the gym, you feel really guilty if you do not keep your promise, and so in making the effort to not disappoint them, you end up following through for yourself as well. Research shows that having an accountability partner can be highly effective at ensuring we will actually do what we are suppose to, and not just talk about it.

Don’t allow the silent killer of opportunity – procrastination, to assassinate your dreams! If procrastination has become a problem in your life, try applying the above-mentioned methods and you will find yourself being more productive, and living a more meaningful life that does not have you putting your dreams on the back burner.

With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,

My Blooming Biz International

How to Ensure You Achieve Your Goals In Life

We all want to achieve something in our lives. We all have goals that we set, yet oftentimes forget. But what does it take to really achieve anything? How can you go about accomplishing a goal that you’ve always wanted to accomplish? Well, in the past, if you’ve set some goals and you didn’t follow through, there’s a reason for that. There’s a reason that we throw up our hands in silent resignation. Most of us simply want something and we want it now; we don’t want to have to work tirelessly for it.

So, how do we go from simply saying we want something, to actually following through and achieving anything we put our minds to? How do we push through when all we want to do is give up? It all boils down to a simple three-part formula and how each part align with what you are trying to accomplish. No matter how big or small that goal is, it can be achieved through the simple application of this formula. Too often, people simply get caught up and stop pushing towards their hopes and their dreams. You can change that today!

So, what’s the formula to achieving anything you want in life?

There are no huge secrets to success in life. Succeeding at your goals takes the simple application of consistent action, adjusting your approach when necessary, and staying the course. Most of us set goals without thinking too much about them. We might have some notion in our mind of what we want to achieve, but when it comes time to making that goal a reality, we don’t actually follow through with it. We get sidetracked by life and we revert to old undisciplined, procrastinating behaviors. But it’s high-time to break those self-defeating patterns.

Three Part Formula (The Three W’s) to Goal Setting

To push through your present day limitations, make a breakthrough, and realize your dreams, you have to follow the three W’s when it comes to goal setting. If you can clearly tackle the three W’s, then you can achieve just about anything. The important part is to make a clear definition of each of the three W’s in your life. You actually have to put pen to paper or words to a screen. This isn’t something that should be done passively.

1. What?

The first “W” is the “What?” You have to know what your goal is. It has to be very specific. And you have to write or type it out. This isn’t passive goal setting. This involves creating a detailed account of what goal you want to achieve in your life and it has to involve some precise details. Why should it be so specific? Because, there’s a mental shift that occurs in your mind when you specifically lay out what goal you want to achieve and experience the motion of actualizing it as you write or type each goal.

When you actively set goals with detail like this, you go from some arbitrary target to one that’s very real and in front of you. You can see it and you should be able to visualize it. Instead of saying you want a lot of money, how much money do you want? There has to be an exact figure. Instead of saying you want to be thin, exactly how much do you want to weigh? What type of clothes will you be wearing? What type of food will you be eating to help with your weight loss?

2. When?

The second “W” in goal setting is the “When?” You have to know when you want to achieve your goal and it should be realistic and measurable. Giving your goal a time to be accomplished by, is very essential, otherwise how will you know when you’ve accomplished it? And if you’ve never lost more than 10 pounds in your life, don’t say that you’ll lose 60 pounds in 6 months. When you’re realistic and the goal is attainable, you’re much more likely to build momentum and strive for those more lofty long-term goals.

This should also help you in breaking your goal out into milestones. If you do want to lose 60 pounds, give yourself a year, then break that goal down into milestones. If you want to lose 60 pounds in one year, then that’s 5 pounds per month or 1.25 pounds per week. Can you see how this is much more attainable now? And since there are 3500 calories in one pound of fat, you can go about doing the calculations of just how much you have to eat and exercise each day to reach that goal.

3. Why?

The last, but equally important “W” to goal achievement is the “Why?” If your reasons for wanting a goal are merely superficial, you’ll find yourself giving up when the going gets tough. On the other hand, if the reason you want to accomplish your goals are so important and meaningful to you in life, then you’ll find yourself following through; you’ll find yourself succeeding. But, too many of us don’t have strong enough “Whys” in life. We don’t have a strong enough reason why we want what we want, and that has to change if we are to achieve any goal.

So, you have to make a clear definition of not only what you want and when you want it by, but also why you want it. Write it out and be specific. Don’t leave this in your mind. Remember, passive goal setting won’t get you anywhere! If you engage in active goal setting, and you really set out to do the work, then you can achieve anything you put your mind to in life.

With love, gratitude, and empowered attitude,

My Blooming Biz International